One bite, one plate, one cookie…turns into two, then three, then four…until eventually you’ve eaten everything.
You’ve stuffed yourself (again), and while it may have felt good going down, you’re not feeling so great now that the food is gone – bloated, fat, weak, ashamed.
You know the drill.
You keep promising yourself that you’ll stop, but you can’t seem to make it happen.
Because willpower is BS, and you haven’t dealt with the root cause of your need to eat beyond physical hunger.
Not sure what those root causes could be? Keep reading!
- You Hate Your Job.
Maybe your dream job turned into your worst nightmare, you feel underappreciated, or you feel like you’re working yourself to the bone for minimal pay. In other words, work sucks, and you feel stuck so you come home and eat because you’re not sure what else to do.
The struggle is real.
- Your Life Lacks Meaning or Purpose
When you were a kid, you dreamed of changing the world – doing something that mattered. Instead, you’re stuck in a rut, doing the same thing day in and day out. Completely unfulfilled. Maybe you know what you want to do, but feel like you don’t have the means to do it, or you have no idea what you want to do. Either way, you know there’s got to be more to life than what you have.
- You’re Not Taking Care of Yourself
As women we tend to give until we have nothing left. We give to our kids, husbands, bosses and friends, often to our own detriment. And most of the time, we don’t notice that the balance is off until we’re totally depleted – sick, tired, and completely worn out.
Once you reach this state it’s tempting to throw your hands up, because “what’s the point?” But there is a point, and it’s your health and well-being.
- You Need Love
We all crave love and connection – some in the form of a life partner, and others a few close girlfriends to brunch with every Sunday. These connections give your life meaning and make you feel human. Without them you feel unhappy and lonely – two things that you would rather not feel, so you bury them with food.
What do all of these things have in common?
And lack creates a void that you try to fill with food, but there’s no amount of food that can fill this kind of void.
Instead – take action.
I know it may feel like you’re stuck, but you always have a choice.
When you start to reach for food, ask yourself “What am I trying to avoid right now?” or “If I wasn’t thinking about food right now, what would I be thinking about?”
Once you’re aware of the feelings you’re trying to numb, you can create a practical plan of action.
What can you do to change your situation?
- Have a conversation with your boss about your frustrations
- Ask for a raise
- Find a new job
- Get a hobby
- Volunteer for an organization with a mission you believe in
- Create a self-care practice – journaling, meditation, movement you love, etc
- Get help organizing and budgeting your money
Find a way to cope with what you’re feeling without food. If you’re not sure what that is, take a walk – it may not seem like a direct solution, but stepping away from the refrigerator (and the situation) can give you a bit of perspective. It might even spark some ideas for your next move.